tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post8370290248260172417..comments2023-11-05T05:29:03.372-05:00Comments on The Accidental Bitch: Competing for Approval, part 4The Accidental Bitchhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17234042975462916572noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-56192763753660431792007-05-20T05:40:00.000-04:002007-05-20T05:40:00.000-04:00ripsy - I know...grant miller - I considered that,...<B>ripsy</B> - I know...<BR/><BR/><B>grant miller</B> - I considered that, but I don't like lying to my readers. Except for you, of course. :P<BR/><BR/><B>princess extraordinaire</B> - Me too, my friend. Me too.<BR/><BR/><B>sarah</B> - I'll get them next time. I hope...<BR/><BR/><B>wanderlusting</B> - Yeah it's so much easier to notice when someone fucks up than when someone's fabulous. That's why being a good boss requires a lot more skill and attentiveness than a lot of people think.<BR/><BR/><B>s*</B> - Yes, but the point is that it is often true that people who try hard and don't "toot their horn" or whatever will go unnoticed. Only really observant higher-ups notice who does what work, depending on the job.<BR/><BR/><B>anon</B> - Thanks for the compliment. As for plugging away, the whole point is that in the business world the system is designed to promote competetive behavior. If your work isn't being recognized, you have a higher risk to be fired, laid off, whatever. And I'm also just a pretty competetive person in general. I like being the best.<BR/><BR/><B>amber</B> - Thanks for commenting! You are always welcome. I did start this job doing the work "for me" and it eventually evolved into this. I think it was partly also because I wasn't doing any work that I particularly enjoyed. I can't help but desire to feel valued.<BR/><BR/><B>kittenpower</B> - Thanks for your sympathy! I'm so glad it's over!<BR/><BR/><B>strange bird</B> - Yes! Thank you for checking back, I'm so out of it this week. I'll get back on the horse asap.The Accidental Bitchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17234042975462916572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-66894363311467386752007-05-18T18:32:00.000-04:002007-05-18T18:32:00.000-04:00And then there was part 5! Right?And then there was part 5! Right?A. Marigoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17250396680228283382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-10329143001086093572007-05-18T14:33:00.000-04:002007-05-18T14:33:00.000-04:00I hate not being acknowledged too. Sorry!I hate not being acknowledged too. Sorry!mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12859110058247136307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-35416173428366717392007-05-18T11:23:00.000-04:002007-05-18T11:23:00.000-04:00Welcome to the "real world" sweetie. People do no...Welcome to the "real world" sweetie. People do notice when you're doing a good job, but it's not often that anything is said or any special attention is given to you because of it. You can't spend your entire life waiting on approval from a supervisor. Most people are "takers" and the more you give, the more they take. All they want is the finished project; they don't care what you went through to get it. Just continue plugging away but do the job FOR YOURSELF. Don't get caught up in the petty bullshit of other people and their power play trips. Dignity, class, and self-respect are worth more than any "job well done." You're going to have to live with yourself for longer than this internship will ever last. The best way to deal with a bully is to stand up to them. Call Willa out and I guarantee you that her attitude/issues will stop, or at least improve. Nobody can make you feel inferior unless you let them, ya know? <BR/><BR/>Good luck with all this. I've been in similar situations with job/people and I know it's hard and you want to wring someone's neck or cry or something. But you can't control what other people do/say. All you can do is live your life in a manner that is going to make you feel proud of yourself and enable you to keep your head held high, no matter what.<BR/><BR/>Take care :). And I love your blog, been a reader for a while now but haven't commented... sorry :).Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04931859412138777861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-26840194264159368212007-05-18T10:52:00.000-04:002007-05-18T10:52:00.000-04:00Do the work for yourself, not for the approval of ...Do the work for yourself, not for the approval of someone else. That will make for a long, frustrating life. Eventually, you will get noticed, just keep plugging along. Take pride in the fact that you know you're doing a great job, and be happy with that. That's all you can do.<BR/><BR/>Great blog, BTW.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-69812038704968285132007-05-16T13:35:00.000-04:002007-05-16T13:35:00.000-04:00I'd just stop being so overly concerned with shini...I'd just stop being so overly concerned with shining more brightly than Willa. If you're really as great as you say you are, the higher-ups will notice. And if not, well, get used to it because that's how the world is...those who should get their due often do not.S*https://www.blogger.com/profile/06902408777018272415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-50111441111428123162007-05-15T00:35:00.000-04:002007-05-15T00:35:00.000-04:00Going through a similar situation at work right no...Going through a similar situation at work right now - I have a thankless job and oddly enough what I am being thanked on is for my writing and editing...two things that are technically NOT part of my original job description therefore wont mean jack pish when it comes for my review.<BR/><BR/>Seriously, it sucks. I have the kinda job where if I do it right, no one will notice...and if I do it wrong, then everyone will...Wanderlustinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05997835666384194750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-45698468500739850212007-05-14T20:42:00.000-04:002007-05-14T20:42:00.000-04:00I've learned that the most deserving never get the...I've learned that the most deserving never get their just rewards =( Keep your head up and continue doing outstanding work.<BR/><BR/>And if it's any consolation, I'd pick you any day over Willa.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-23529345852529698482007-05-14T19:43:00.000-04:002007-05-14T19:43:00.000-04:00Sorry you didn't get any credit where you deserve ...Sorry you didn't get any credit where you deserve a lot..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-46933216385314837132007-05-14T17:29:00.000-04:002007-05-14T17:29:00.000-04:00eeesh. Next time don't make up names and just say ...eeesh. Next time don't make up names and just say you did.Moderatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02318879290010704973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4444239424280440405.post-12105955387512034842007-05-14T16:35:00.000-04:002007-05-14T16:35:00.000-04:00:-(:-(Ripsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06906738946623040795noreply@blogger.com